Hey there,
On this journey of healing, I've learned Reader that knowing your identity as a child of God is one of the most important parts of your faith. What you believe can happen with your life is being shaped by who you believe you are.
This is why we have to be mindful of what we declare over ourselves, especially if you're healing from trauma. Trauma has a power to lock you into only believing you are what your habits declare, competing with what God said.
Let me give you an example of some common trauma based identity statements I hear women say.
I am a control freak (noun). You’re not a control freak.
You became controlling (verb) to create a predictable environment from the chaos of an unstable life and relationships. You may have the tendency to:
- Use control to get people to do what you want
- Draw people close when you’re lonely
- Push people away when you have a crises
- Not understand why people don't just 'get you'
You do this because you secretly don’t know how to be loved and may find that several of your relationships are transactional- surface level where people only get what they need and go.
But God says you ARE accepted in the beloved. Ephesians 1:6.
As you heal, the fruit you will bear is love and one of the tools you need to use to get there is vulnerability.
I am an attention seeker (n). You’re not an attention seeker.
You tried to get attention(v) by any means necessary because of chronic neglect or bullying. You may have the tendency to:
- Overshare your issues
- Do strange things to get people to notice you're hurting
- Use trauma and gossip to bond
- Form relationships around pain
But God says you ARE accepted in the beloved. Ephesians 1:6.
As you heal, the fruit you will bear is joy and one of the tools you need to use to get there is self control.
I am a overthinker (n). You are not an overthinker
You learned to overthink (v) to avoid feeling pain and/or to soothe yourself from overwhelm. Now you may have the tendency to:
- Hide the way you really feel to avoid feeling embarrassed
- Overwork your body to the point of exhaustion
- Spend too much time mentally in the future or past
- Pick yourself apart after tough moments
But God says to come to him when you are weary and heavy laden and He will give you rest. Matthew 11:28
As you heal, the fruit you will bear is peace and the tools you need are deliverance and rest.
Bottom line-Be aware of your tendencies (traumas, weakness & sins [verbs]) but don’t make it your personality (identity [nouns]).
If you need help unlocking how God has uniquely designed your identity, I'd be honored to coach or mentor you through my iP3 Biblical Coaching Pathway. Together in our mentoring sessions, we can
- Identify the gaps between how people may see you vs. how you show up.
- Take a look at your spiritual gifts, conflict resolution style and personality type
- Look at your past and carefully pray through how it has impacted you
To take action, just click the link below for your free 30 minute discovery session.
You are who GOD says you are.
🌟Alexis M. Lott 🌟
Who am I?
Hey, I'm Alexis M. Lott, a decades long online entrepreneur & certified Christian life coach. I built a business that allowed me the financial freedom and flexibility to manage life with Sickle Cell and more.
Now, I’m on a mission to help you thrive and achieve the same freedom. Let’s work together so you can heal your heart, earn more, manage your money with confidence, and fully enjoy your creative gifts.
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